Work daily toward a purpose. We all need a purpose, Maslow (1987) showed that in his hierarchy of needs he placed self-actualisation as the top of ‘being’ and that this helps drive and motive humans to want to be the best that they can be. Help your child to put in the time each day to achieve something worthwhile. It might be exercising and self care, learning a new skill, practicing gratitude or helping others.
Focus. No one teaches us how to focus. In fact, most of us spend our lives distracting ourselves, which is the opposite of focus. Meditation is one tool for teaching focus, but there are many other options, such as:
● Set a timer and ask your child to focus on their homework for 10 minutes straight.
●Avoid allowing your child to read a book or play on their tablet while watching TV. Teach them to only engage in
one activity at a time.
Care little what others think. This is a tough one to master at any age, but it’s especially challenging for children. It’s hard to be successful if you’re worried about the opinions of others. When negative thoughts of occur because of the words and actions of others, break down what happened and what your child had control over and what they did not. Doing this will help children see that they can’t change how others see them but have the power to change how this affects them and how they feel about themselves. We have a great tool to help with this in the form of our wellbeing packs for children! As a parent, this is something you can actively practice and also, share your process with your child when someone says something negative to you.
Risk failure. The willingness to fail is strongly correlated with success. Successful people fail much more frequently than the average person. The more often you’re willing to fail, the more success you’ll find.
Deal with failure. Once failure has occurred, it’s important to make the most of it. Teach your child that failure is a learning opportunity that makes them stronger and more capable Try starting off with little failures, remind them that it is OK to feel disappointment but this energy will not mobilise them to make change and then come up with ways to move through the problem, make it fun and creative! One of our favourite books to show children ways to do this is called Beautiful Oops!